As a father of 3 children I am constantly challenged with being and staying connected with my kids. Each one vying for my attention the minute I walk through the door. But my day doesn't end when I walk through the door. In any given week the following responsibilities are a part of my life on a regular basis: cub scouts, awanas, church homegroup, church leadership meeting, accountability group, etc.

Remember Karate Kid? In the movie Daniel wants to be totally devoted to karate. But, Mr. Miyagi explains to Daniel that he needs balance in his life. "Wax On...Wax Off. Balance Danielsan!" And it's just like that in the life of being a parent. Each child needs attention and each one needs different kinds of attention. But how do you find the balance with so many activities? The answer is...keep your kids involved with you.

When I volunteered to lead the cub scout den it was because my son wanted to be a cub scout and no one else was available at the time. I reasoned that since scouting is a family activity and since I would be closely involved with what my son would be doing I might as well help out by becoming a den leader. It's a great way to stay connected and I know that he will never forget these early years in scouts. Sure, I could do other things with my time but this is time well spent because I am staying connected.

My four and five year old were involved in a church program called Awana's. I volunteered to help out as an "Cubbies" leader because it was important to me to see my kids learn about God. The church needed help and I was available so, once again, I reasoned, why not do something that's helpful and keeps me engaged and connected with my kids?

Then of course there are my responsibilities to my marriage. My wife wants my time and attention too. More balance. If my marriage is not in balance then the whole house of cards will easily crumble. When possible the kids need the stability of a mom and a dad in the home. In my personal opinion too many women are turning their attention to their kids and making the kids the center of their worlds because they are not getting the attention they needs from their husband. This is a big mistake and can ultimately lead to real relationship problems once the kids are older and less dependent on mom. If you are mom in this situation let me encourage you to sit down with your husband and let him know that your cup is not being filled. If you are man and you aren't sure if your wife's cup is being filled--ask her. It's all about balance and staying connected. Don't let the urgency of life drain your cup to the dregs.